It's Hard to Find Time For Myself- By Dean Hebert

Self care...these words escape most peoples vocabulary. The concept is very foreign here in america. This is where we are rewarded to stay past 6:00 pm instead of taking time for ourselves. You are alive. You are breathing. You have your essentials like food, water and shelter. Ladies and gentleman, it is time to take it a step further. It is not enough to have your essentials and be functional. We want you to be functional at your best. Do you find yourself asking these questions...


Why is it hard to find time for yourself?

In our day to day life we feel the need to put everyone else before us. The kids, the job, the spouse, and friends. Everyone gets priority before us, because we feel that we can handle it. 


Why does someone need to concentrate on themselves?  Why is it NOT selfish?

You don't want to concentrate solely on yourself, but you want to put yourself in as a priority because if you don't take care of yourself you end up breaking down and everyone that is depending on you is left to fend for themselves. 


What does self care look like? How long does that take? What should one do?

It's different in different situations, depending on how full your plate is. Taking care of yourself is eating right, exercising, and taking a few minutes where you can close off the world and just breathe...


To start a proper self care regimen, take 15 minutes every night before you go to bed and take note of all of these things:

At the end of each day right before you go to bed turn off the phone, turn off the tv, and turn your attention inward. How are you breathing? Are you holding your shoulders up or are your shoulder hanging? Are your fist clenched, or are they soft? Are you clenching your jaw or is your faced relaxed? Awareness is the beginning.


What are the benefits of doing this?

To best answer that question is how you take care of the people that depend on you. You want them happy, you want them healthy and well rested. These are the things you do to take care of somebody else. These are the things you need to do for yourself in order to take care of other people.


What does it look like in your life?

At this stage in my life, it is the goal to eliminate the clutter in my life. Reducing everything down to it's barest essentials, so that I am not burdened with unnecessary weight, both physical and mental. Example: If your on an airplane, they instruct you to put your oxygen mask on first in an emergency, before you take care of anyone else.




In summary, the goal is to treat yourself like the people that mean the most to you.



Interviewer: Sahana S. Braswell


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    Fen (Friday, 20 October 2017 11:50)

    You guys did such an amazing job explaining the importance of self care. I will be sharing this out :)

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